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Southern Family Mediation are here to support and help your clients in building and strengthening relationships between themselves, and their children.

We can help your clients move away from anger and be able to focus on their children rather than the conflict - making your job easier and their time with you more productive.

As child consultants, we can bring the children’s voice into the process, focusing the parents on what is really important and giving them a mutual sense of needing to work together to resolve the situation. Helping the parents to focus on their children, rather than the conflict.

Solicitors, we can help you by:

Working as a child consultant to bring the voice of the child, and the effect of the conflict on them, into the room to help your client to focus on what is really important. Thereby reducing the ante and helping you to help them to reach settlement.

Working as a family coach to support your clients emotionally and practically. Either in one or two meetings, or on an ongoing basis throughout the divorce process and until they feel restored to more solid ground.

Supporting your clients with mediation where both solicitors attend part of the mediation process with their clients. Becoming more common now this gives your client both – your experience and advice and our support and therapeutic approach to focus them.

We know that children are directly affected by divorce and relationship breakdown. The effects will shape the rest of their lives. Parents are often so caught up in the conflict and are too close and involved to provide their children with support and understanding. Parents may feel guilty and worried about the effect of their conflict on their children.

A child consultant will listen and talk to children to explain and help them understand the turmoil in their life which inevitably flows from divorce and family breakdown. A child consultant will help parents look at things from their child’s point of view and to focus on what the children need as they work through the legal issues with you, their solicitor.

A family coach will support your client through the process on a 1:1 basis. Helping them to deal with and manage their emotions. This helps to calm them down, stop the emotional ‘rants’ to their solicitor, and to reduce conflict and make negotiations more effective.

We can also support your clients practically by helping them to locating the relevant documents, fill out forms, transfer accounts, even helping them to find new schools or homes. This is not an alternative to legal advice, but can make the entire process less daunting for your client.

Once financial disclosure has been completed (whether through solicitors or in mediation) the meeting would take place over a day or half day (depending on the complexity of the case or how far apart the parties are). Mediation in this way can help the parties to reach settlement, and even to see if they can find enough consensus to avoid starting or continuing court proceedings.

It is often much more attractive to clients than a roundtable meeting as they would each sit in their own room with their advisors, having them there to be able to discuss the proposals and options created. All mediation discussions take place on a without prejudice basis, giving a chance to explore more creative solutions. With the worst-case scenario being if consensus can’t be found the parties simply revert to their stated open positions – without having to find new solicitors.

If on the other hand a solution can be found with the help of the mediator, then the legal advisers can draw up a consent order straight afterwards. The client goes away happy and, as we know, happy clients tend to recommend their solicitor to their friends.

Solicitors, we can help you by:

Working as a child consultant to bring the voice of the child, and the effect of the conflict on them, into the room to help your client to focus on what is really important. Thereby reducing the ante and helping you to help them to reach settlement.

We know that children are directly affected by divorce and relationship breakdown. The effects will shape the rest of their lives. Parents are often so caught up in the conflict and are too close and involved to provide their children with support and understanding. Parents may feel guilty and worried about the effect of their conflict on their children.

A child consultant will listen and talk to children to explain and help them understand the turmoil in their life which inevitably flows from divorce and family breakdown. A child consultant will help parents look at things from their child’s point of view and to focus on what the children need as they work through the legal issues with you, their solicitor.


Working as a family coach to support your clients emotionally and practically. Either in one or two meetings, or on an ongoing basis throughout the divorce process and until they feel restored to more solid ground.

A family coach will support your client through the process on a 1:1 basis. Helping them to deal with and manage their emotions. This helps to calm them down, stop the emotional ‘rants’ to their solicitor, and to reduce conflict and make negotiations more effective.

We can also support your clients practically by helping them to locating the relevant documents, fill out forms, transfer accounts, even helping them to find new schools or homes. This is not an alternative to legal advice, but can make the entire process less daunting for your client.


Supporting your clients with mediation where both solicitors attend part of the mediation process with their clients. Becoming more common now this gives your client both – your experience and advice and our support and therapeutic approach to focus them.

Once financial disclosure has been completed (whether through solicitors or in mediation) the meeting would take place over a day or half day (depending on the complexity of the case or how far apart the parties are). Mediation in this way can help the parties to reach settlement, and even to see if they can find enough consensus to avoid starting or continuing court proceedings.

It is often much more attractive to clients than a roundtable meeting as they would each sit in their own room with their advisors, having them there to be able to discuss the proposals and options created. All mediation discussions take place on a without prejudice basis, giving a chance to explore more creative solutions. With the worst-case scenario being if consensus can’t be found the parties simply revert to their stated open positions – without having to find new solicitors.

If on the other hand a solution can be found with the help of the mediator, then the legal advisers can draw up a consent order straight afterwards. The client goes away happy and, as we know, happy clients tend to recommend their solicitor to their friends.


"Southern Family Mediation helped me through a difficult period in my life. Thanks to their great mediation my ex-husband and I have a good relationship and are able to bring up our children in a constructive and harmonius way even though we have both moved on."

Mrs Paula S. Southampton.

“Louisa had an ability to find common ground on a complicated financial matter and to ensure both of us understood the need to find ways to understand both parties perspectives”

Rich N, Romsey.

“Louisa is the best! So helpful when it's needed the most.”

Sarah H, Southampton.

“Louisa was fantastic, full of great advice and council. I don't know what I would have done without her. A brilliant service. Professional and delivered by a lovely woman. I would highly recommend using her.”

Mrs Joanne T, Chandlers Ford.

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Child and Family Consultants are not usually lawyers, but skilled professionals in other disciplines who work with parents and children to help them manage difficult situations which arise as a result of issues within the family. Children are directly affected by divorce and relationship breakdown. The effects will shape the rest of their lives. Parents are often too close and involved to provide their children with support and understanding. Parents may feel guilty and worried about the effect of their conflict on their children. A Child and Family Consultant can help parents look at things from their child’s point of view and work with the family to organise the future in the child’s best interests.

Child and Family Consultants will listen and talk to children to explain and help them understand the turmoil in their life which inevitably flows from divorce and family breakdown. They work with parents, mediators, solicitors and other professionals to help parents make decisions for and about their children, which are in their long term best interests. Helping children to feel that, whatever is happening between their parents, their lives are still secure; they have the love and support of their parents and they can rely on their parents to make decisions for and about them as they have always done.